基督徒摆脱色情瘾的10个步骤（附英文原文）

1

首先，你必须承认色情瘾的存在。许多陷入色情瘾陷阱中的人，都坚定地否认这一问题。遮掩自己罪过的，必不亨通；承认离弃罪过的，必蒙怜恤。（箴言28：13）

2

你必须认识到，你正在做的事情是错误的（得罪上帝的）。陷入色情瘾中的人往往会合理地解释他们自己的行为。因为凡世界上的事，就像肉体的情欲、眼目的情欲、并今生的骄傲，都不是从父来的，乃是从世界来的。（约翰一书2：16）

3

你不应该指责别人。“如果我的妻子/丈夫对我更深情就没问题了”……“如果女人/男人不那么诱惑人就好了”……亚当把责任推给夏娃，而夏娃又责备蛇。然而，你必须开始为自己的行为承担责任。

4

与一位属灵的权威、或是与一位牧师或成熟的信徒建立起问责制。每个人都需要有一个“安全”的人，来分享他们的挣扎。所以你们要彼此认罪，互相代求，使你们可以得医治。义人祈祷所发的力量是大有功效的。（雅各书5：16）

5

你必须意识到，“意志力”不是答案。在软弱的时候，你的“意志力”可能会失败。承认你需要神的帮助，那么，你可以邀请超自然的力量介入到你的生活中，让神的大能在你生命里做工。你要顺服神的旨意，这时神就会开始在你生命里做工。

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学习神关于性纯洁的话语。所以你们要脱去一切的污秽和盈余的邪恶，存温柔的心领受那所栽种的道，就是能救你们灵魂的道。（雅各书1：21）

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你必须销毁你物品中任何的色情内容。你不可能自己戒掉色情瘾。想想您家中隐藏的色情，就像是一颗定时炸弹，最终它会破坏你的家庭。

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你必须学会逃离诱惑。你认为你可以玩火而不灼伤，但这是自我欺骗。不可行恶人的路，不要走坏人的道。要躲避，不可经过，要转身而去。（箴言4：14-15）

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给自己时间，逐步恢复。神通常会带领我们经历一段学习和成长的过程，这个过程可能是非常痛苦的。战胜色情瘾的过程应该被视为一场马拉松，而不是一次短跑。

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这是老生常谈，但你还是会偶尔十分靠近你的色情瘾。

看看那些小的胜利，并为你的进步而欢呼吧。恢复可能要一寸一寸的计算，但可能一里才有一次试探。

作者介绍

史蒂芬•亚特本（Stephen Arterburn）是美国基督教新生命机构（NEW LIFE）的创始人，并通过写作和广播节目，在全美提供生命改变的帮助。

英文原文：

10 Steps to Overcoming Pornography Addiction

【1】First, you must acknowledge the addiction exists. Many who are caught in the trap of addiction will adamantly deny the problem. He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion. - Proverbs 28:13

【2】You must recognize that what you are doing is wrong. Addicts find a way to justify their problem in their mind. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world. - I John 2:16

【3】You must not blame others – “If my wife/husband were just more affectionate.” … “If women/men were not so seductive.” Adam blamed Eve and she blamed the serpent. Instead, you must begin to take responsibility for your actions.

【4】Make yourself accountable to a spiritual authority, perhaps a pastor or mature believer. Everybody needs a “safe” person to share their struggles with. Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much. - James 5:16

【5】You must recognize that “will power” is not the answer. At a weak moment, your “will” may fail you. By admitting that you are in need of God’s help, you open access to His supernatural intervention in your life. You must yield your will to God’s will. That’s when He can begin a new work in your life.

【6】Study the Word of God concerning sexual purity. Therefore putting aside all filthiness and all that remains of wickedness, in humility receive the Word implanted, which is able to save your souls. – James 1:21

【7】You must destroy any pornography in your possession. You can’t wean yourself off pornography. Think of the hidden pornography in your home as a ticking time bomb that will ultimately destroy your family.

【8】You must learn to flee temptation. Self-deception may enter when you think you can play with fire without getting burned. Do not enter the path of the wicked, and do not proceed in the way of evil men. Avoid it, do not pass by it. Turn away from it and pass on. – Proverbs 4:14,15

【9】Give yourself time to work through the process of recovery. More often than not, God chooses to take us through a learning and growing process, that can be very painful. Victory over addiction should be viewed as a marathon, not a sprint.

【10】It’s cliche, but you must approach your addiction one day at a time. Look for little victories and rejoice in the progress you’re making. Recovery is a cinch by the inch, but a trial by the mile.

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